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robin lakoff: Talking Power. The Politics of Language. Basic Books 1990, pages 34, 36, 38

Indirectness can function as a form of politeness. Politeness is a system of interpersonal relations designed to facilitate interaction by minimizing the potential for conflict and confrontation inher­ent in all human interchange. We like to think of conversation as conflict-free, with speakers normally being able to satisfy one another's needs and interests. But, in fact, we enter every conver­sation—indeed, every kind of discourse—with some personal desideratum in mind: perhaps as obvious as a favor or as subtle as the desire to be likeable. For some of these needs, participants can accede to each other, and both gain their desires; but with others, one must lose, however minimally, for the other to win. One per­son must tell another something that the other doesn't want to hear; one person must refuse another's request; one person must end a conversation before the other is quite willing to go. In such cases, there is the danger of insult and, consequently, the break­down of communication. If societies did not devise ways to smooth over moments of conflict and confrontation, social rela­tionships would be difficult to establish and continue, and essen­tial cohesion would erode. Politeness strategies are the means to preserve at least the semblance of harmony and cohesion....

[> In what ways is this definition of politeness more or less specific than the general social meaning of politeness you are familiar with?

Distancing cultures weave remoteness into their language. The attribution of responsibility represents an intrusion of the per­sonal: it suggests that individuals with different interests are involved in the discussion. So grammatical devices that minimize a speaker's personal involvement are favored—for instance, pass­ive verb forms and impersonal forms like one. Words that threaten to convey or evoke dangerous emotion are replaced with safer ones, which suggest that no emotion is involved. This formal language is the language of diplomacy, bureaucracy, and the pro-

fessions. Diplomats speak of an incident when they mean that their countries are in a virtual state of war; bureaucrats talk of revenue enhancement when they renege on a promise of no new taxes; doctors discourse on iatrogenesis when they mean they did something that made the patient sick. These words provide a suffer between pure denotative meaning and its emotional wal­lop: the hearer, in all probability, knows perfectly well what the speaker intends; but the latter has chosen deliberately Latinate rords from a sector of the vocabulary not rich in emotional con­notations, so as to lessen the danger of collision.

[> Can you think of other examples of distance politeness in lan­guage use?

|> Can you think of situations or special circumstances where the type of distance politeness, as defined here, is ignored?

is essential to realize that camaraderie can be conventional .... 3ut ... someone unaccustomed to conventional camaraderie will take it as genuine, arising out of long acquaintance and the develop-lent of mutual liking and trust. Modern camaraderie probably aegan in California as an outgrowth of the human potential move­ment of the 1960s and 1970s. For a while it was a bane to visiting Easterners, who were confounded by the Californian's appearance of good fellowship and deep caring; the immediate first-naming, touching, looking deep into the eyes, and asking truly caring ques­tions: 'Are you really happy with your life?' To the properly brought-up Easterner, such behavior was permissible only after years of earning it, and maybe not then. Easterners fell into one of several schools of thought about the character of Californians: either that they had the simplicity of children and should be patron­ized; or that they were rough frontier sorts, probably raised by wolves (and you know how wolves are); or that they were truly wonderful people who could get to know you as well after two seconds as would take most of us a lifetime. All of these attitudes assumed, of course, that the camaraderie was real rather than conventional.

[> What examples of language use would you predict (or have you experienced) as representative of 'conventional cama­raderie' in contrast to 'distance politeness'?

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